The measure of your character is the true measure of who you are. Character is more important than reputation and the two are not the same. Your reputation is who others think you are; your character is who you truly are. This is why you should not focus on building your reputation but on developing your character. The following 10 powerful ideas will help strengthen your character and make you a better person:
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #1: BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
The worst form of deception is self- deception, and self- deception happens when we refuse to accept the truth about something or are hoping for something that just isn’t so. Always be honest with yourself. It preserves your sanity, and it makes you a person of character. If you are dishonest, you are dishonest with yourself, and that is an assault on your own character.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #2: MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS
Avoid letting anything other than sound reason dictate your decisions in the conduct of everyday life. It might often be difficult, and at times impossible, to not yield to feelings deep within your soul, but you can learn to suppress their manifestations, and to overcome them through relying on common sense and sound judgment.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #3: BE CONTENTED
Appreciate your own values and what you have. Imagining that the grass is greener somewhere else is a recipe for lifelong unhappiness. Doing so is actually projecting your assumptions about how others live. It is better to focus on how you live. Live your own life. Choose to be happy.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #4: DON’T LET ANGER RULE YOUR LIFE
Guard against excessive emotions. Whenever you find yourself preoccupied with some overwhelming emotion, immediately occupy yourself with something else. Many great warriors have lost their lives when they reacted too brashly, and went to fight prematurely without adequate preparations, acting merely upon a hot head. Learn to overcome such a weakness. Anger is a common vice in people of weak character.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #5: EMPATHIZE WITH OTHERS
Show empathy to others, and love others as yourself. This may come at some cost. Empathizing differs from sympathizing. Empathizing requires you to project yourself and engage as needed (walk in and help clear the other person’s pathway); sympathizing implies an emotional but passive reaction, such as listening, looking and mimicking without extending oneself.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #6: CONQUER YOUR FEARS
Timidity is a stumbling block to success. Entertain no superstitions based upon superficial observations, but accept facts based upon solid reason. Avoid building your foundation upon sand, preferring instead to build upon a rock. Once you overcome fear, you will have the strength of character to think, to resolve, and to act. And doing so will make you a much better person.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #7: GOVERN YOURSELF
Every individual has his or her interest foremost in mind, whether consciously or unconsciously. Neither impose your will upon others, nor allow others to impose their will upon you. Remain aware that different people will have different suggestions, and that you cannot please everyone. Find the right path, and walk therein. Govern yourself, and never abandon the right path.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #8: DO GOOD AND ESCHEW EVIL
Seek peace and pursue it earnestly. Aim not for personal goals that trample on others’ needs but aim after noble and worthy motives to benefit society as a whole. If you seek personal gains, you will run into conflicts with others, and, in the end, you will inevitably fail. If you seek mutual good, all will benefit, and you will also find satisfying personal gains as well.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #9: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR DESTINY
Each individual is responsible for his or her own development and fortune. To believe that destiny is somehow immovable is to discourage yourself from attempting everything you can to improve your life and self. Work out your own happiness; don’t wait for someone else or something else to do so for you because it will never happen unless you take responsibility.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CHARACTER #10: BE PATIENT
Success is a journey — not a destination. An individual with a strong character will not quit when faced with obstacles. Learn to delay gratifications. Learn to wait as part of progressing, and learn that time can be your friend when you use it to learn and grow. It also helps to know which battles are worth fighting and when to let things go.