Research shows that one out of every three adult suffers from low self-esteem. Low self-esteem has become an epidemic in our world! The good news, however, is that a healthy self-esteem can be developed. Here are 6 fundamentals you need to develop super self-esteem:
ESSENTIAL #1: ACCEPT YOURSELF
Your self-esteem increases when you are moving toward the accomplishment of something that is important to you. Each progressive step causes your self-esteem to go up and makes you feel more positive and effective in everything else you do. How much you like and respect yourself is the starting point. The very act of setting big, challenging goals for yourself and making written plans of action to achieve them actually raises your self-esteem, which causes you to feel much better about yourself.
ESSENTIAL #2: HAVE CLEAR VALUES
The second fundamental in self-esteem building is having clear standards and values to which you are committed. Men and women with high self-esteem are very clear about what they believe in. The higher your values and ideals are, and the more committed you are to living your life consistent with those values and ideals, the more you will like and respect yourself, and the higher your self-esteem will be.
ESSENTIAL #3: MEASURE YOUR PROGRESS
The third fundamental in self-esteem building involves having success experiences. Once you have set your goals and standards, it is important that you make them measurable so that you can keep score of your small and large successes along the way. The very act of setting up a goal, breaking it down into smaller parts, and then completing those parts makes you feel like a winner and causes your self-esteem to go up.
ESSENTIAL #4: COMPARE YOURSELF WITH TOP ACHIEVERS
The fourth fundamental of self-esteem is comparison with others. To feel like a winner, you must know for sure that you are doing as well or better than others. The more you know about how well others in your field are doing, and the more favourably you compare with them, the more you will feel like a winner and the higher your self-esteem will be. Successful people continually compare themselves with other successful people until they reach the point where they compete only with themselves.
ESSENTIAL #5: BE RECOGNIZED
The fifth fundamental for self-esteem is recognition of your accomplishments by people whom you respect. To feel really great about yourself, you need the recognition of people you look up to and admire, such as your boss, your co-workers, your spouse and people in your social circle. Whenever you are recognized and praised for any accomplishment by someone whose opinion you hold in high regard, your self-esteem goes up, along with your eagerness and enthusiasm to do even better on the job.
ESSENTIAL #6: BE ENORMOUSLY REWARDED
The sixth fundamental of self-esteem involves rewards that are consistent with your accomplishments. You may work in a field where you receive financial bonuses, status symbols – larger offices, bigger cars – or even plaques and trophies for superior achievement. All of those symbols can have an incredible impact on raising your self-esteem and causing you to feel terrific about yourself.